Six months is not a long time. Three months is especially
not a long time.
It takes six months to learn your job, to understand all the
ins and outs.
It takes six months to learn how to drive a stick, to the
point that you are just cruising.
It takes six months to get to know someone.
How long does it take to fill a bowl with water? It
depends. When that bowl is your relationship, how do you know if it is full?
Relationships take time. Enjoy your time together. Use that
time to get to know one another through every stage; lust, attraction and then
attachment.
If you are with the person now, have decided that after three
months that they are the one, then it is no more a waste of time to wait six
months than it is to spend time with them now. The time together is a fraction
of the years you will spend with each other. You will still be together - so
there is no time misspent.
It may be quicker for one of the couple to learn that you
are compatible. It may take longer for the other. Either way, no one is wrong
or right.
And you need to respect that difference.
Initially you are attracted to who it is you think they are
and it is only as time goes by that you truly understand who that person is.
This is not a good thing or bad thing. It just is.
There are no time limits, rules, requirements or time frames.
The natural tendency is to assume that people are who they
say they are and who they appear to be. You can learn facts but a person is so
much more than that. You also have an impression of their character. People in
general, from one to the next, are inconsistent.
Not all conclusions can accurately be drawn from
discussions. One needs to verify words with deeds and actions. One needs to
verify deeds and actions with words.
Only in a committed relationship do you have the opportunity
to discover who someone is. Time together is fulfilling. Time away from each
other, you are missed but the feeling of fulfillment remains.
Your relationship is based on a respect and devotion
motivated by none other but your partner; a heart-pumping, breath-taking, earth-shattering overall body sensation when this person walks in the room.
You develop an awareness that you would gladly give up just
about anything and perhaps everything to keep this person safe and happy.
After talking to my best friend I added this concluding
line.
Be open, communicate and tell them what you are thinking.
